Wanna Get Married?

Imagine your at a coffee house having a coffee, a lady sitting at another table glances in your direction, sees you looking in her direction and smiles.

Would you walk over and say "Hi would you like to go out to dinner tonight?" "Better yet dinner and a show?" "On second thought skip the show and lets go back to your place and then we can see the minister tomorrow and get married". "Then we can buy a place in the Hamptons and live happily ever after!"

To fast and to hard eh? Totally unrealistic?

Business is no different, you must build a personal relationship first. A relationship engenders trust, trust generates confidence, it is that which allows you to provide things to people as a friend. Always build a relationship one step at a time before you "offer" anything to some one.

After all, most people are not ready to get married the same day or even the next day after meeting some one. Why should a life long business relationship be any different.

#3 The Wind Beneath Their Wings

The #1 reason for failure in most people is in the general procrastination, laziness, and poor mental attitude about what they BELIEVE they can actually achieve.

The reason I put mental attitude and beliefs in front of the actual details is because your mental status is the true starting point for success in anything.

Let me explain... Do you have kids? I do and its strange how we behave towards them sometimes or how we say one thing but do another.

Have you ever noticed how we send our kids to school to learn new things, to stretch their wings. Yet, when we ourselves are faced with the unfamiliar, the reply is "Oh no, I can't do that."

Why on earth would we insist that it's good for them to feel the wind beneath their wings and fly if we ourselves sit on a branch and demonstrate that we are afraid and not willing to try?

Which lesson do you think, has the stronger impact?

I was talking about kids here, but anything we do applies towards business just as well. Do you have a program you bought waaaay back when and its just sitting on the shelf, collecting dust and just waiting for you to get around to it?

On the other side of the coin... a new book is out promising to reveal all and you "just have to have it." Another program launches with the offer to earn you $10,000 a month and five minutes later you are a member.

Does your IN BOX have so many emails coming in, from so many different things that you subscribed to that you can not even remember what is what?

Well my friend, may I suggest you get committed? No, no not "signed into the loony bin committed" but rather committed to one thing that you focus on without distractions.

You need to get off your duff, schedule a daily amount of time to actually do the work and you need to stick to it and know, deep down inside where it really, really counts... that you can do it.

You have your goals from the last lesson, now you need to keep them in the forefront of your mind so that when the next Guru pops up with his or her irresistible offer to side track you you can walk away and say "No thank you".

Next time we talk about how blinders on horses work and what it means to your business.

Strike Back!

THIS TIME IS DIFFERENT
THIS TIME EBAY HAS GONE TOO FAR
JOIN US FEB 18-25

Buyers and sellers alike are joining the Feebay Boycott Feb. 18-25 to send their message to Ebay about being very unhappy with the changes being made. Ridiculous raise on Final Value Fees, Sellers not being able to leave negative feedback for buyers and the high probability of Paypal holding our funds for 21 days, even though the seller must ship the item before the funds are released. This is just asking for trouble. Here is a link to the ebay forum all about this:
http://forums.ebay.com/db2/thread.jspa?threadID=1000636290&start=0

Here is where everyone is meeting up and has lots of info on alternative auction sites and updates on the boycott:

http://www.powersellersunite.com



Why are the sellers of EBAY striking? There are a number of reasons but the three main ones are:

1. Ebay announced an across the board reduction in listing fees. That sounded great! What really happened? They dropped the listing fees by a nickel and raised the Final Value Fees by up to 67% - THANKS A LOT

Fee hikes are bad enough without being lied to about it

2. Paypal can hold a sellers money up to 21 days after the date of sale if you do not meet their “ criteria “. Less then 100 feedback? Recent negative feedback? Who knows why else?They can hold YOUR money until Delivery Confirmation shows delivered, you get positive feedback, or 21 days have passed! You ship the product with your money and three weeks later you get paid! I DON’T THINK SO

3. I have saved the best for last. Sellers no longer have the ability to leave negative or neutral feedback for any buyer for any reason. Buyers still have that right.


We are making a difference.

http://www.powersellersunite.com/auctionsitewatch.php

#2 How To Get From Hither To Yonder

So, do you know how to get from hither to yonder?
Yes?
No?
Maybe?

Then how about today we just do something exciting?

"Like what?" you ask.

Oh... I don't know, lets just do something different and hope it makes a difference in our lives ok?

Does not sound like much of a plan eh? Yet that is exactly the approach that most people have when it comes to making major choices in life.

Hey hon, lets have some kids ok? Ok, I'd like a girl and a boy how about you? Yup sounds good to me.

No plan, no checking if the environment is one that is conducive to bringing a child into, if the finances will support another mouth to feed, what the responsibilities are, basically no plan just "I want".

When it comes to business its the exact same thing...

Hey hon, what do you think about starting our own business? Ok, I'd like to do something online how about you? Yup sounds good to me.

Look, do you jump into your car and just.. go somewhere when you need groceries? How about work? Do you just drive around or hop on any old bus to get there?

No, of course not. You have a set plan of action that you perform that will give you the exact desired results, so why in the H.E double hockey sticks, should starting your own business be any different?

Moving out of your parents place, getting married, having kids starting a business. These are all major turning points in our lives and should receive our full and undivided attention.

You need goals, step by step plans, targets to plot your progress and a method of getting there.

Listen to me and do not take this as a overstatement.

"Your goal needs the following...

*It must be a clearly defined goal.
I wish I had more money is not good enough.

*It must be realistic.
I want a million dollars by tomorrow is fantasy.

*It must be achievable.
You fill in the "BLANK" here

*It must have a timetable
I want to be wealthy some day is NOT a timetable

*It must be written down
All successful people write down their goals.

*It must be reviewed and or revised regularly.
Circumstances change and goals need to adapt as well as be replaced once they have been achieved.

Next installment we'll have the boys in white standing by as we talk about being committed.... or was that making a commitment?

The Olympian Way to Online Success:

Armin Morin, Jay Abraham, Mark Joyner, Perry Marshall, John Carlton, Michael Rasmussen, Mike Dillard, Derek Gehl and Rich Schefren just to name a few names that you may recognize.

Other than the fact that they are all highly successful, what do they have in common?

Coaches, coaches, coaches, coaches, coaches, coaches, coaches, coaches, coaches.

Would it be a surprise to you to learn that most of today’s entrepreneurs, professionals and top executives have personal business coaches?

Just like Olympic athlete Carl Lewis had Jesse Owens as a mentor and role model and Tom Tellez as coach. (Tellez would remain Lewis’ coach for his entire career.)

Every last one of the names I mentioned above have coaches and mentors to train and guide them, hence the title, "The Olympian Way to Online Success".

I am not suggesting that they form some sort of super brain trust to come up with better ways of selling. Rather they us coaches to help them focus on time and goal management so that they can enjoy life the way that they want to live it.

They also use it to focus on peaking their performance in order to achieve a higher level of business and professional success and perhaps gain new perspectives due to their new found skills.

Now all you need is $50,000 to $500,000 and you too can have your own personal coach!

Easy eh?

Oh... your a bit low on pocket change today huh?

Well... what if I could give you a few basics that you could follow on your own without the need of some one standing over your shoulder.

Would that be ok?


# 1. A State Of Mind

Flecks of dust blown in the wind bounce off each other. Whims and wants changed every few minutes behave in the same manner.

On the other hand...

Black holes are dense bodies that attract everything to them yet are themselves unmoved. Success attracts more of the same and is undiminished for it.

Todays society is a simmering pot of instant gratification and distractions, all vying for our attention. Staying heavily focused is not always an easy task, so your first job is for you to be able to bring that chaos under control.

So, since the secret of power and success depends on the way you think. You need to change the basic way you think.

To quote Charles Haanel...
"We must "be" before we can "do," and we can "do" only to the extent which we "are," and what we "are" depends upon what we "think."

Find someone whom (or it it who?) you admire and look up to, watch them closely and see how they behave. Then copy them!

Feel like a kid playing "dress up" yet? I hope so because this should be a fun adventure.

I want you to "Stop, Think and Pay Attention" to anything you "always do because thats the way you have always done it"

The whole idea is to change your thinking by changing your actions and to change your actions by changing your reactions and change your reactions by changing your thinking.

Notice a pattern yet?

Now, the reason this works is because, in order to do something you must either have developed the skill, developed a habit or actually have to think about what your doing.

Since your not already super wealthy and successful its going to be the "Thinking about" part that your going to be doing for the next 28 days.

Did I forget to mention that since it takes 28 days to build a new habit you are going to focus on what you are thinking about for the next 28 days.

So any time your off, upset, angry, confused or just not to sure ask yourself... What would "My Mentor" do in this situation?

Then do it.

Next installment we'll talk about how to set goals

What do you want most in life?

Is it Money? How about Fame and Fortune? Power, Love, Peace and Contentment? Or maybe its just plain old Happiness?.

Napoleon Hill said....

"ALL ACHIEVEMENT, ALL EARNED RICHES, HAVE THEIR BEGINNING IN AN IDEA!"

So let me ask are you truly living the life that you dreamed of when you were young? Or did you give up on your dreams and decided that you would settle for the life you have now?

Just ask around, most people will tell you that they are willing to pay the price, that they are willing to do whatever it takes to live a lifestyle of absolute freedom and abundance.

Yet why then is less than 3% of the population wealthy?

Is it due to lack of knowledge?

Why would anyone fail to do what they actually dreamed of doing, if they knew how to do it?...

Surpisingly most people don't actually believe they could really be wealthy. Even worse some honestly believe that they deserve the lifestyle they are living!

I mean if you're not completely satisfied with the life you have created for yourself, what are you doing aboit it? Are you really going to live the rest of your life just seating there and going through the day-to-day motions?

If you truly want something else, I mean anything else, for example, a better quality of life for yourself and your family.

Then you need to start doing things differently and you need to start doing them today not tomorrow or whenever you find the time!

You need to be motivated, you need to believe in your own dreams again and you need to change your life!

You need to do it now!

You are not the first person to change their life. Others have done it before you and they were able to succeed so you can too.

There will always be obstacles and nobody said it will be easy. But if you have an honest desire to change your life. You will be able to achieve almost anything you set your mind to.

If you have faith, perseverance and "Just do it!".

You might not succeed the first time, you might fail the second as well, but you must always keep on trying. Success will always come with persistence and faith.

To quote Calvin Coolidge...

Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence.
Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent.
Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb.
Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts.
Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.
The slogan "press on" has solved and always will solve the problems of the
human race.

As for mistakes.

Albert Einstein once said...

"Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new."

So what are you waiting for?

Go ahead and take that chance!..

Failure is not an option... Quitting is not an option ...
Don't just try, just do it... it's the only option!

There is never any time like the present to change the course of your life.

If your committed to it let me share this tool with you, I used it years ago to turn my life around and I am certain it has helped thousands of others as well.


THE SELF-CONFIDENCE FORMULA... by Napoleon Hill

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FIRST - I know that I have the ability to achieve the object of my Definite Purpose in life, therefore, I demand of myself persistent, continuous action toward its attainment, and I here and now promise to render such action.
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SECOND - I realize the dominating thoughts of my mind will eventually reproduce themselves in outward, physical action, and gradually transform themselves into physical reality, there- fore, I will concentrate my thoughts for thirty minutes daily, upon the task of thinking of the person I intend to become, thereby creating in my mind a clear mental picture of that person.
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THIRD - I know through the principle of auto-suggestion, any desire that I persistently hold in my mind will eventually seek expression through some practical means of attaining the object back of it, therefore, I will devote ten minutes daily to demanding of myself the development of self-confidence.
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FOURTH - I have clearly written down a description of my definite chief aim in life, and I will never stop trying, until I shall have developed sufficient self-confidence for its attainment.
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FIFTH - I fully realize that no wealth or position can long endure, unless built upon truth and justice, therefore, I will engage in no transaction which does not benefit all whom it affects. I will succeed by attracting to myself the forces I wish to use, and the cooperation of other people.

I will induce others to serve me, because of my willingness to serve others. I will eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness, and cynicism, by developing love for all humanity, because I know that a negative attitude toward others can never bring me success. I will cause others to believe in me, because I will believe in them, and in myself.

I will sign my name to this formula, commit it to memory, and repeat it aloud once a day, with full FAITH that it will gradually influence my thoughts and ACTIONS so that I will become a Self reliant, and Successful person.


Signed this ____ day of _______
Name___________________________

Whats hot in 08?

With the New Year upon us, people have been discussing what will be "hot" in 2008.

One of the most common topics has been VIDEO. Why don't I just let the video explain it :)